Point of Reflection

Well yesterday was particularly a difficult day for many of us..

Say it astrologically or whatever… everything seemed to go kind of awry..

Then in the evening things seemed to settled down.. and well as my day ended I was thinking of how sometimes tough days and tough times enforce us to relook at the essence of humanity that is and makes us renew our faith in it.

One of the incidents I wanted to share, which kind of made me really glad that well there is good after all the difficult stuff.

It started with my friend suddenly realising that she has misplaced her purse.  We were on our way home and we stopped for some tea. Now she searched high and low and the purse was nowhere to be found..
She had kept her credit and debit card and incidentally, she had a large sum of money in it as well.

Then she called the cab she took in the morning.

I was quite disturbed as well and was worried and started planned what would be the best course of action.. if we dont get the purse.
Cancel the cards, take some cash from me and give it to her, make sure all accounts are closed.

As I was thinking on these lines, my friend gave me the phone to talk and in my broken native Kannada, I convinced him to go look in his car for a purse. He promised he would do that  and asked me to call back in 5 minutes.

We waited, all the while in my mind thinking that the purse is already in her hands and we have it intact..

I consciously dispelled any thought of loss and focussed on no loss and a happy ending.. with no fuss..

And still I was worried.. and nervous. I appeared calm so that my friend does not freak out further..  She was wondering what to do next. I told her all will be fine.. and when we called the cab guy again, he talked to my friend and told her that he found the purse along with the money and everything in place.

His shift was over and he was at home which was really far away from where we were.

At my friends request, he said he would come down and she said that she would take up his service to drop her home and would pay extra..

So well there he was in record time.. and the purse was back with the owner. I was relieved but it did make us feel good that well there were some good moments after all even if we have to go through some moments to despair..

I was thinking back.. ( ok I am doing a load of thinking back currently). There are so many incidents that show us that all is not lost after all. If we can manage to detach ourselves and look beyond the circumstances that we are going through, and keep that clear picture of the outcome, it definitely helps us row ourselves to the shore.. wading through the difficult waves of life altering situations.

I can pick some phases in random.. to reinforce that faith..

When all was said and done for me.. at one time in my life, the only alternative was to get me married to a guy in the village where I would be responsible only for cooking and procreation, while my esteemed relatives eyed my property lasciviously and hoped that once the girl was gone, they could feast themselves on my Dad’s hard work. The world was dark and it was a world of no options. And yet, there was a window… and looking back, it did give me that push to always expand my limits.. no matter where and no matter what..

My friend D whom I loved so dearly, with whom I have shared so many memories.. was knowingly married off to a family where the boy was already married. And well today, after all the trauma, she is leading a new life, remarried again, happy with her newly born son. Well what could be more beautiful  than this.

Another friend of Rocky’s, who had to give up a career being a Commando in the forces due to a very complicated illness where one of his kidneys was dying a slow death. There was no scope of relationships, personal life, or professional. He is someone whom I have met very few times.. but he has always made an impression.  A lovely human being.. and a person who anyone would love to talk to.  It was like us watching from outside helplessly as this strong soul struggled through his suffering . And yet, day before when he called me for something, I was so glad to know that he has got a new kidney and he is planning of settling down and we have been so happy for him..  Its so good to see him at the top of his world.. May he be blessed with more and more.. and may he be happy..

The fact that we can breathe in and out smoothly sometimes is a lot to thank for.. Some people find that itself difficult..

I mean, I was thinking this morning, how easy it is to focus on what is not happening rather than what is happening.. and what we have in our hands..

And yeah… kudos to second chances.. its something to treasure and live well..