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Many a times, there are situations in life where we do not have control over the events and that leads to frustration and anger. Its all well to vent it out to people who can take it.
But to fritter it here and there with no real outcome in mind.. Sometimes just adds up to the tension which is already there.
While watching Big Boss 3, I found that Kamal Khan took things too far.. To get publicity and footage out of that show.. And anger was used as a tool to further his cause.. Thinking that this is what the public likes to watch.. Well who knows.. Some do like it.. But to some its just another fish fight.. Which one would like to avoid.
Working with people, one of the worst side effects is to be held responsible for actions which adults in their full senses take. When an adult is sure of what he or she wants, even if it looks pretty stupid to the world, it might make loads of sense to them who have decided on a path.
The wisest thing to do is to recognize that we are human and we are allowed our errors and the only bit that we can control is ourselves and no one else. Not your spouse, not your children, not anybody.
Everyone has a right to their opinion and everyone has a right to decide how they want to live.
Now if this works for them, so be it, if it does not, well we need to think and step back.
Forcing circumstances to happen because its not reaching up to the social standards is sometimes an illusion and sometimes does not do anything for the cause that we all are fighting for various reasons.. And the point is that for different people the result is different.
What matters is the person for whom the cause is being fought.
Washing dirty linen in public, throwing angry words, or doing something drastic, really beats the very purpose of the cause..
The cause is lost and what remains are the charred remains of the psyche and bitterness to spread around.. And of course how it affects the near and dear ones are another matter altogether.
Its time to be free of judgmental and social bias and live and let live.. And move up and on in your path.
Can we count how much it cost us or how much we spent by being angry and shredding blame all over..
Being a person who is quick to anger, this aspect seems to be knocking at my door very often. And I have to find creative ways to fight this. Its not easy specially when the ego takes a kick, when its unfair and when we are down.. But its wise to use this very thing in a constructive manner.
I remember , when I was a kid, I first learnt that I could get relief from the very dark anger that was inside me was by throwing things.. And while it appeased the beast inside me, it would make me feel terrible to ruin objects that would be dear to me. Then I came up with this idea of shredding paper.. And well it worked.. So I kept a ready supply of newspaper to shred when I blew my top.
My parents were at a loss… I shudder to think what a monster I would have been at those times.
As I grew older and none the wiser, it affected the relationships that I would hold dear. Not acquiescing to the beautiful world of forgiveness, it was only anger that made me think I was a survivor.. Little did I know that in this path, there was only loss and no gain..
- Now, my mantra is what you cannot fix, let it be..
- It will sort itself out.
- Sometimes, its ok to be angry as long as you are constructively diverting it.. With any activity that soothes the brain.. Gardening, house cleaning, running, folding clothes..
Anything.. - The most important thing to remember is that we are dancing to the music that is played by the monkey EGO which loves to see us clown around in our anger. The ME in us rises to such a high that it fuels all the ripened triggers which justifies the ANGER in us and in us being angry..
The big picture here is that we have to have peace of mind and what is our main priority in life.
Yourself ( first), family, near and dear people around you..
Heck !! is it worth losing it ??
Sometimes it is … sometimes it just does not matter..
What matters is YOU.. What are you doing to be YOU..
Anger does NOT definitely serve any cause..
It just muddles it !!
Till we muddle ourselves out of our puddles… have a good weekend !
