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Giving Thanks

Thursday, November 26th, 2009

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Its a nice time to give thanks for all that we have in our hands today. Realize the fact that what and how we are living is very fortunate to those who have not been able to even gather one meal for the day.

Really Thank the Creator of all that is, to have bestowed upon us the reality that we dreamed of long back.

Its a special time and its a time to know that we are very lucky to be living and having near and dear ones around us.

As the year draws in to a close, we have much to thank for given the way everything is turning around, economy, climate, conflicts and so many more to make our progress slow and gradual and full of in depth thought.

Anyway, am back from Assam. And as always, I found peace being around my parents who are growing old and entering their twilight years.

Many a subtle tasks have been completed and closed for me. Meeting all my relatives in a wedding was worth the trip. Meeting them after 9 years was kind of bittersweet and pleasant at the same time.. Then I was a daughter of their relation and today I am a woman with my own nest and I am a visitor to their nests.

More than anything, the particular souls with whom I had some heavy karma seemed totally free of that weight and though the sarcasm was the same, the outlook was the same, I was glad to see myself rise above it all and not react AT ALL. Thats new for me and it was just nice to see a big family get together.

I had a quiet laugh at a conversation of one of my relatuons who went on and on about diamonds and gold and all the material worth.. and so much more BLAH just near by ear deliberately trying to irritate me. This woman was my nemesis from the time I was born. I was smiling to the Creator as I was being tested so very hard on my patience and tolerance. Now was the time to practice what I preached and VIOLA !! It just did not matter. So well I think I passed my test.. Hahaha !! And with intense humility I really thank the Creator for bringing about that change in me and my beliefs.

Sometimes, its nice to just be detached and have the events fold open up on its own. I am glad I got some time to spend with the bride, my cousin, who I remember to be a kid. It was emotional watching her at the vermillon ceremony where the mother – in-law puts the Sindoor on her to be daughter-in-law’s head.

And among all the dazzle of wedding finery and bustle of the wedding crowd, after a long time, I felt a sense of belonging to this family and was at peace.

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The Bong Geek Torture

Friday, October 30th, 2009

Recently we had a new joinee who has been allocated the seat, an open cube which is perpendicular to my cube..

Currently there has been a lot migration of bong geeks from Kolkatta.

Which is all good. More power to the Bongs and for a change it is nice to hear a language which I love to speak and I love to be. In all its glory of food, human discomforts and general bong advice.

So it was all nice to here a familiar tone talking familiar subjects. But slowly it started to really get on to my nerves.

I like to think I am a ok kind of tolerant soul unless my trigger is set off right from the start. At least as I am growing in years the tolerant quota is slowly but surely increasing.

I repeat. I like to think that about myself. It could totally be an illusion.

I think its been about 3 odd months or less and my level of patience is in the process of drying up.

I tried venting it out by posting in Facebook and Twitter thinking that my frustration would get over.

Phone call 1 : ( assuming he is talking to his wife)

Almost everyday as we start work.. this has got to be a trend…

hello : ki korcho. Pujo shesh. Appel ta kheye niyo. ( what are you doing ? Puja over ?? Have that apple)

This continues to when he will have lunch and when he will be back.

Phone call 2 : ( Tata Sky )

Getting all excited, his house got a tata sky, he calls his wife and tells her over the phone what to say to the Tata sky guy.

Amake khali Bangla channel lage. oke bolo this and that and this.. ( I want only Bangla channel and tell him this and that)

and the conversation goes on loudly for some time.

Phone call to his friends : This individual has got decent amount of friends who he regularly calls. Methinks that his group are all migrating from Kolkatta.

So he calls and talks to one of his friend. Telling him about himself and how he is settling down. Then he asks, where he got the job. The friend answers. And then he does not stop at that.

Accha bol to, tor salary koto. ( tell me how much salary are you getting ?? )

The friends hmms and hawwwss.. ( I am assuming)

Now our pal is not satisfied. He goes on asking about his salary.. I think he asks about 4 to 5 times. Till he gets an answer and typically says..

Eito !! if you would have asked me before negotiating, I would have given you a higher figure. You have to bargain for it.

And on and on and on..

Recently, one of his friend is leaving his job I think… and our pal goes on and on convincing him why he should not leave and since he is married, he should think about both of them..

Blah blah blah !!!!!

Phone call on Vomit : ( yes that is there too)

One morning he picks up the phone and tells in a weak voice that he cannot go to lunch with him that day since he has vomitted some number of times. Goes on to relay when he puked.. and how many times.

And how he had some food over the weekend and it went haywire..

and thats why he says he will have to be careful

Phone call on ticket cancellation : ( this is a funny one)

Now this is what happens when we do too much of “Jugad”. Dont know the word in Bengali. This bugger calls up a friend to cancel one of his tickets or some of his tickets via train to Kolkatta. He sits in a no worry mode where things will be taken care of.

Then he gets a call that the job is done and ALL the tickets have been canceled.

He is shocked and does not know what to say. Keeps soclding the fellow and immediately calls his wife to relay this new turn of events. And he keeps bemoaning this fact on and on.

Finally he decides to book plane ticket..

I could not help but giggle silently while on the other hand being frustrated at yet again having been privy to this conversation.

Phone call on his breakfast : ( “deem shidho” – boiled eggs)

One day he went on and on about his food and boiled eggs and fish and boiled eggs and fish and boiled eggs and fish

I was like hungry just listening to him talk so much and me is not very happy when hungry and there is no food.

Buhahahah !!! :):)

When does this bugger work ?? If he talks from morning to afternoon to evening..

So after listening to his private ins and out and his so called meanderings between friends, family and his food habits.. and his loving concern for the “aappel” that his wife has to have everyday..I talked to another Bong Manager who is a good pal as well and sits on the other side of the cube and told him to help me out.. by telling him to keep it down and to take a conference room…

Seriously I really dont need to hear or form an opinion about someone’s personal life and their doings..

I am ok with bits and pieces of phone conversation which we all have during the day. It does not invade..

But to go on and on and on and on .. after a while, it takes me away from my work and the mind gets stuck into that which is no business of mine..

FINALLY today !!! there is quiet and limited quiet conversation.

Thank you Bangali Babu.. !!

Appreciate it !! I can work in peace..

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Ahoy !!

Monday, October 12th, 2009

and BANG we are in the beginning of a new week.

Weekend went off well.. I loved playing hooky around town..

Drove aimlessly went from one point to another.. window shopping never seemed so playful..or exhausting.. I think I have a thing for shoes.. he he he!!

Wake up Sid was just the right movie for the weekend. Armed with my caramel popcorn and Frooti, I went up to my seat and settled down without expecting much from the movie.. I am still warming up to Ranbir Kapoor. So I loved the way Ayan Mukerji played out the tale.. Nothing strong, nothing sensual, just life and sometimes, one would remember the days we went through during that phase of our life when we were carefree..

I loved the decor and the costumes for the movie.. I infact loved Sid’s T shirts.. I am sure Rocky would have loved it too since he is a super hero and comic book fan.. I need to figure out where to get these T shirts now..

Konkona Sen was a little cold and I did not see the chemistry happening always but for some parts. Maybe it was deliberate and maybe it wasn’t but it did not pull one away from the story. Her tone of the role in this movie reminded me of Luck by Chance somewhat.. I dont know why though.. !!

All in all it was a no brainer, light and flirty story which pleased the senses and well left you feeling kinda light.. as well.

But if one compares it to similar films like Dil Chahta Hai, Jaane Tu…, I would still give a Thumbs up for Dil Chahta hai.. It had woven the story better.. but maybe it caught the attention because it was new.. and fresh..and paved the way for similar movies.. so Wake up Sid in effect would not be an invention but a carry forward of something which started and sustained the attention of the urban youth and life of the urban youth..

Having said that I am glad that it did not have music that grated on the ears. Its divine to hear the classical touch to modernism. Like in Luck by Chance, we had this lovely song Sapno se bhari naina.., we have Iktara here..

And also lyrics which had some relevance to the movie..

Some thoughts

With the festivals coming up one after the other, its good if we make some time to give to the ones who deserve your kindness. I am sure we do this everyday in some way or the other, but yes if we consciously do it, it makes it all the more worthwhile. In Buddhism, the art of giving is defined as giving something which is very precious to you to someone who you would like to have it. Its difficult to do that sometimes. We usually think about buying the best for us and of course what we think is best for others..

Sometimes, its nice to try and give your friends something which you think is best for you.

Having said that, its always important that while you give, be aware that you are open to receive what others have in store for you.

I have seen with myself and many people that we have this feel good factor with giving and doing things for others but when it comes to ourselves, we are very closed about receiving whatever our friends and strangers give us.

So have that thought of balancing it out..

Give as well as receive.. a hug, a listen, a compliment, a smile..some sweets,

It warms one from inside out.. and then it is worth completing that art..

I found that when I travel to US the best thing about that place is that at work or at a marketplace.. is that people make the effort of saying Hi and smile and exchange common courtesy which makes one feel really nice..

Now do that in India.. you might just be slammed for eve teasing.. hahahaha !!

Even if you try smiling at someone for the heck of it, they look at you weirdly.. LOL..

Yes. I tried it and I got loads of frowns or ” who are you” kind of look .. I look the other way.. and walk away..

But sometimes, I do get a response and it does warm the heart..

have a good week people !!!